What does it mean to grow up with white privilige? To live with it every day? To pass it on to your children? And how do you know you benefit from it, whether you want to or not?
Author Archives: Jorinde
The Courage to Show Yourself
Why is it so hard to show yourself, as you truly are? What does that fear of vulnerability lead to in your life? And is it possible to move beyond it?
The most important question you’ll ever ask…
Image credit: Skeptical CatCopyright text: Jorinde Berben There’s a question that is both simple in its form and endless in its answers. It leads to opening up your mind to understand, instead of closing it off to judge. The question I’m, of course, talking about is ‘Why?’ ‘Why?’ is a very powerful question. I firstContinue reading “The most important question you’ll ever ask…”
Write your subconscious into your life
Image credit: Kathleen DemeyText copyright: Jorinde Berben There are several ways to connect to your subconscious mind. You could use certain drugs, or hypnosis, or certain types of therapy. When alone, however, I prefer to use the method of the ‘writing meditation’ which Joey Brown teaches as her life’s mission. Last Summer, I was fortunateContinue reading “Write your subconscious into your life”
“Stop being the nice girl, be real!”
With these words a friend I felt quite close to stepped out of my life. There were painful things that had happened on both sides leading up to this moment, but until then I had felt there was somehow a way back. After the e-mail that ended with the words above, it was clear thatContinue reading ““Stop being the nice girl, be real!””
How do you ask for help?
Seriously, I’m asking you, because I’ve struggled with this my entire life. This struggle has led me to a place where I believe many of my friends don’t think I want help, let alone need help. I act as if I can do it all on my own, as if I’m super strong and handlingContinue reading “How do you ask for help?”
But how do you FEEL?
Chances are you know someone in your life that LOVES this question. That will ask about your feelings at any given moment and expects an in-depth explanation of the complex range of emotions you are going through at that time. If you don’t know a person like that, you might BE that person. There areContinue reading “But how do you FEEL?”
When Someone’s Angry With Me…
Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pikrepo.com … it completely hijacks my brain. I feel like I have very little control over the automatic programs that start running through my body. First of all, yes, I realise this is the second post I’ve written about anger in a week’s time. It should give you a clueContinue reading “When Someone’s Angry With Me…”
How to deal with angry kids: quick fixes
Written by: Jorinde BerbenImage credit: pexels.com First of all, how you deal with anger in others gives you a lot of information about dealing with your own anger, but that’s for another time… At this moment in time, I’m stuck in my house with my two (mostly lovely, sometimes insane) children because we’re in theContinue reading “How to deal with angry kids: quick fixes”
A Perfect Parent In 4 Simple Steps.
Disclaimer 1: This title is obviously clickbait, in real life I’ve never met a perfect anything.Disclaimer 2: This post deals with the role of ‘parent‘ since it’s a big one in my life, and also since tomorrow is Mother’s Day, but you can replace it with any role you take up in life (partner, sibling,Continue reading “A Perfect Parent In 4 Simple Steps.”
Unscrewing Myself 