Feedback – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Both giving and receiving feedback can be tricky, even triggering. Last weekend, I got to experience it as incredibly helpful and as very difficult (which in itself also proved valuable feedback).

What Do You Need to Stay Connected to Something or Someone?

Going from blogging twice a week for two years, to only writing once a week might seem easier to keep up, but I’m actually running into unexpected difficulties…

Healthy Relationship Practices: What Part of You is Setting Boundaries? (including 6 Steps to Healthy Boundaries)

Our boundaries are personal, and the way we set them often is as well. But there are some general principles that we can use to do so. The way we set our boundaries matters, and the energy behind them has an effect we often overlook.

Is Being Impulsive Really Such a Bad Thing?

Going somewhere on a whim, following your nose wherever it takes you, forging the iron while it is hot… doing something impulsively can be really fun! But what are the drawbacks? And is there a way to keep the good and let go of the bad?

What We Want and What We Need

What we want and what we need, or what we think we need and what we really need… sometimes it’s hard to figure out which is which and to strike a balance between those different needs.

Healthy Relationship Practices: Owning Your Sh*t

In any interaction, there is more than one party, and every party has their influence. In romantic relationships this is even more the case, yet we are often blinded by what we contribute to the funk we may get into at times…

Going From ‘No’ to ‘Yes, if…’

Sometimes things seem impossible, or we are unwilling to do them in the way they are prescribed or the way we imagine them. At those times, it can be useful to see what adaptations you could make to turn your ‘no’ into a ‘yes, if…’

10 Things I Still Haven’t Figured Out After 37 Years

My 37th birthday was a bit of a rough day, and it helped guide the words for this post on things I still find myself facing after working on them for most of my life…

The Schizophrenic Reality of Living With Fear of Commitment in a Committed Relationship

Sometimes it feels like there are two people living inside my head, two people who want, do, and say completely different things. It can get really frustrating, so I decided to write it down.

My Needs Versus My Responsibilities

How do you decide between what you want to do, for yourself, and what you feel like you need to do, for others? What if those two clash? I’ve recently found a new way to weigh my needs versus my responsibilities that has left me feeling more in charge of my life.