Category Archives: beliefs

Survival Mode: How Does It Get Triggered? And How Do You Get Out of it?

What pushes you into survival mode? How can you tell when you’re in it? And how could you learn to get out of it?

The Dark Side of Idealism and Woke Culture

It’s wonderful when young people put their hands and heads together to fight for social justice, the environment and their future. But idealism also has a dark side that we need to be wary of…

Healthy Relationship Practices: Should You Work on Yourself Before Going Into a Relationship?

Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.

The Nasty Effects of Conflict Avoidance

When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…

The Horror of Uncertainty (and its Hidden Invitation)

We often think we have a pretty good idea of the future ahead based on our experiences of the past. But sometimes, that future becomes really unclear. How does that make us feel? And how can we respond?

How Did We Get This Far?

My friend asked me ‘how did it get this far?’ and I asked myself the same question. Not just for me, personally, but for a society as a whole as well, with so many dropping out due to burnout. What’s really going on here?

Principles Versus Practice

Many of us have princples that guide our lives, ideals that we’ve translated into practical habits to reflect who we want to be. But sometimes, those principles are too hard to uphold, or conflict with one another, or somehow don’t really seem to mirror that initial ideal. Is it alright not to live according to your own principles for a while?

3 Triggers to Self-Doubt and Insecurity

It can be tricky to get out of self-doubt and insecurity, and even when you do, it can be easy to slide back into it. In this post I want to look at three reasons we might feel insecure, and how to deal with those triggers.