Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of a huge fight wondering ‘How did we get here? What is this even really about?’
They seem to come out of nowhere, but there are usually some tell-tale signs letting you know what’s coming. Here’s how to avoid these nuclear relationship-bombs and to deal with conflict more constructively.
Category Archives: beliefs
10 Things I Love About Myself (That I’m Not Supposed To)
We get taught an awful lot, implicitly and sometimes explicitly, about what we’re supposed to love and hate about ourselves. Until we decide we no longer buy it. Until we decide we can just love it all!
5 Quick Lessons For Canoeing (And Life)
From a few hours in a canoe, I can draw a lot of lessons that apply just as well to life on shore. Here are 5 I want to share with you (and some pictures!). Enjoy!
Why Can’t My Partner (Friend, Child, Colleague…) Cope With Small Obstacles?
There are people who, when a problem is presented to them, can’t seem to cope with it right away. There are times when I can adapt to issues really quickly (at work). This is a story of when I couldn’t, why that was and what I needed at the time. I know I’m not alone in this, so perhaps it can be helpful to you too.
My Views on Marriage After Divorce
Over the decades, my views on marriage have shifted back and forth quite a lot, influenced by what went on in my life. I was 21 the first time I married. Will there ever be a second time?
What Will it Take For Us to Rest?
Why is it so hard for us to rest? Do you ever just sit still and relax, for hours on end? I want to look at why it is tough, and how I can start building rest into my life.
The Work by Byron Katie #5 – Turn It Around
The final post in my series on Byron Katie’s The Work deals with turning your beliefs around, finding the opposite thought and seeing how, when and where it could possibly be true. This work has slowly been unveiling its secrets to me, through practice, and I haven’t seen the end of it yet. So happy for another piece of the magical puzzle of self-exploration to fall into place.
What To Do When You’re Feeling Overly Emotional – 3 Steps to (Some) Calm
Have you ever had one of those days (or hours) where it felt like everything was too much? You couldn’t cope with simple adversities like a stubbed toe or a broken glass? I had such an emotional day yesterday and, for the first time, felt like I handled it okay. Here is how.
The Work by Byron Katie #4 – Who or What Would You Be Without the Thought?
The final and fourth question in The Work by Byron Katie centres around imagining a world, a version of yourself, without the thought that’s holding you back. Here’s how to tackle it, enjoy!
The Work by Byron Katie #3 – How Do You React When You Believe That Thought?
Today I talk about question 3 of The Work by Byron Katie. The Work is a great way to explore your own thoughts and the impact they have on your life. It centers around 4 questions you can ask yourself, to coach yourself to more insight, more freedom and more happiness.
Unscrewing Myself 