What the Past 10 Years Taught me About Mothers, With or Without Children

Today my daughter turns 10. This marks 10 years of being a mother, though I realise that this is a much more flexible state of being than I always thought, and that it is much more related to my state of being than the children I have…

Defaulting to a ‘No’ or ‘Yes’ as a Parent

As parents, we are often quick to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to a child’s request. We often default to one or the other, depending on who we are and depending on which kid. But what if we took our time to answer their requests?

How My Labels Help Me Love Myself Better

Labels are a dubble-edged sword: they can stigmatise and at the same time set you free. For me, it was the latter more so than the first…

9 Modern Values Taught by Harry Potter

I’ve finally finished reading the last of the Harry Potter books to my children. It took us about a year. Over the months, I got to fall in love with them all over again, and saw my kids do the same. As a parent, I actually really liked the wisdom hidden in its pages.

When Children Fight, How Can You Help?

Even kids who are really close friends (especially kids who are really close friends) sometimes butt heads. Is there something you can do as a parent when that happens? And what works and doesn’t work? Here are some pointers from our own experience!

Survival Mode: How Does It Get Triggered? And How Do You Get Out of it?

What pushes you into survival mode? How can you tell when you’re in it? And how could you learn to get out of it?

How Can We Help Our Children Feel Safe?

My son has a really hard time finding safety in the outside world. If he could choose, he’d be with me or his father 24/7. But since we’re limited beings, and the world is inherently unsafe, we need to find other ways to help our children feel safe.

Are You Aware of What Winds You Up? (And Can You Get Back Down?)

We are all faced with stressors in our everyday lives, but what stresses out one person might not stress out someone else. The same rule applies to all of us, though: what goes up must come down. But how?

Co-Parenting After Divorce: 8 Key Lessons I’ve Learned

When I got married and had children, I never planned for what would happen in case we got divorced. It was never part of the schedule. But after 3 years of co-parenting after divorce, I’ve learned some important lessons that I want to share, hoping you will never need them!