Are you a put-your-head-in-the-sand person or a say-it-as-it-is person when it comes to conflict? And if neither tactic really seems to be helping to fix things, is there a better way to approach disagreement?
Tag Archives: relationships
Who Am I Doing This For?
When you give, who are you doing that for? What’s in it for you? What’s in it for the other person? What energy is behind it?
“But You Don’t Seem Depressed…” – On Covert Depression and 6 Tips for Helping Someone With Depression
Depression can sometimes be nearly impossible to spot. Covert depression and high functioning depression are well-hidden, yet can be even more devastating because it takes longer to get help. Here’s how to spot some of the signals, and what you can do to help someone going through depression.
Healthy Relationship Practices: Clarifying Your Relationship Patterns
Every relationships is riddled with patterns, the longer we have them, the stronger the patterns. We sometimes even start thinking that we ARE those patterns. But is that really true? And are those roles we take up as strong as we think?
Healthy Relationship Practices: Should You Work on Yourself Before Going Into a Relationship?
Is it better to ‘work on yourself’ before you go into a relationship? Or can you grow while being together? Here’s how I would answer that question from my own experience, with some influence from experts as well.
The Nasty Effects of Conflict Avoidance
When you avoid conflict, it has some immediate rewards: no conflict, you don’t have to deal with unpleasant emotions, etc. But there are also pretty bad negative effects that I want to dive into here…
Do You Want to Belong or Fit In?
We all want to feel a sense of belonging. It’s part of our human nature. And we often try to feel it, by making ourselves fit in. But is that the right way to go about it?
Same Event, Different Experience: How to Deal with Unexpected Emotions
My daughter looked forward to school starting again for days, my son dreaded it for weeks. How do you deal with people responding so differently to a situation than you would? If you can’t really understand why they feel the way they feel?
The Empathy Response – Why? How? When?
What is the one response that works on an angry friend, a scared child and a grieving family member? It’s empathy. It’s one of the most valuable skills we can acquire and the impact on our personal and professional relationships is amazing. Why not give it a try?
What Does True Loyalty Entail?
What does a loyal friend do when you’re going on about your ex? Or about your horrible boss? And what does courage look like in friendships? Do we appreciate who our truest friends are?
Unscrewing Myself 